One Way to Live in the Moment: Say Goodbye to Headphones

This past June, I decided to no longer wear headphones in public spaces. You might find me wearing headphones at work, particularly when I’m in a high productivity zone, as music can help to drown out wandering thoughts and keep me focused on the task at hand. But in public spaces, including the park, the grocery store, the post office, and on the bus to work, you won’t find me wearing headphones.

So, why not?

Public transit, alone together

New York Subway system | Source: Washington Post
Seoul Metropolitan Subway | Source: Washington Post
Washington Metro lines | Source: Washington Post

Four years ago, I accepted an internship at a non-profit in NYC. I moved to Brooklyn, so I had a decent commute to and from work, which was located in the Theater District of Manhattan. I spent much of my day on the L train, where I picked up a bad habit: wearing headphones the moment I left my apartment until I the minute I marched into work on 42nd Street.

Sometimes I wasn’t really listening to music. I would use my headphones as a “do not disturb” sign to others, to ward off unwanted conversation with strangers and attention from cat-callers. I’d bury myself in a book, but keep my earbuds in to simulate an invisible bubble of protection. And it worked. The funny thing was, I wasn’t the only one doing so. In fact, everywhere I looked, commuters were plugged into their devices, with their backs hunched over and their heads hovering above their cell phone screens – or blasting music that could be heard by the entire subway car.

A couple of years later, I was completing a teaching fellowship in a rural part of Thailand in Southeast Asia. By then, my reliance on headphones had waned a bit, as electricity wasn’t too reliable and I no longer owned a smartphone. During my summer break, I spent some time traveling around the region, even making my way to East Asia. One of the countries I visited was South Korea, where much of my exploration involved the Seoul Metropolitan Subway. There, I also noticed a phenomenon similar to NYC: every commuter (no matter their age) had a device in their hand, whether it was a tablet or cell phone. And almost everyone had headphones. I think I saw one gentleman with a flip phone, but for the most part, everyone had a new smartphone in their possession and their eyes were glued to their screens.

I spent this past year working in Pittsburgh, PA. Though Pittsburgh isn’t as large city as NYC or Seoul, I saw a majority of people on my bus route into the downtown Cultural District with headphones in, avoiding eye contact. These days, I work in Washington, DC. While my observations aren’t necessarily fact, I do see more people reading the newspaper or books during their daily commute in the metropolitan DC area than I have in any other city. Still, whether I’m commuting to work on the Metro Subway or Bus, or taking the Megabus or Amtrak on the weekends, a majority of people do wear headphones so they can listen to music or stream videos.

Headphone culture

Listening to music and watching TV are no longer simple pastimes – they have evolved into a culture where it is acceptable to move about the masses with our headphones in and eyes down. An article in The Atlantic notes that headphones “create, in a public space, an oasis of privacy.”

Source: Best Match

It’s not just on public transit that we see people attached to their devices with earbuds in place. Outdoor runners and gym goers have armbands so they can exercise to their very own playlists. University libraries – which are supposed to be quiet for primetime studying – are filled with headphone-wearing college students. People dangerously cross the street while texting or listening to music, unaware of traffic at the intersection. We even see drivers on the highways and streets listening to music through earbuds and not their car stereo systems.

Reliance on mobile devices

We live in a time where the youth are growing up with technology. While this means kids are tech-savvy, it also means many are often experiencing the world with a device in hand. According to the Pew Research Center, American society is increasingly dependent on mobile technology. Below are some statistics on American adults:

As of October 2014:

As of January 2014:

  • 90% of American adults own a cell phone
  • 32% of American adults own an e-reader
  • 42% of American adults own a tablet computer

Some smartphone owners — particularly younger adults, minorities and lower-income Americans — depend on their smartphone for internet access. Of U.S. adults who own a smartphone, 7% are “smartphone-dependent.

Source: Android Authority
Source: Android Authority

This data isn’t too surprising. According to a study by the UN, more people around the globe have access to cell phones than to toilets and basic sanitation.  It makes sense that countries like the U.S. have become quite reliant on mobile devices.

Living in the moment

Source: Bored Panda
A woman caught living life in the moment at a movie premier. | Source: Bored Panda

Recently, a photo of an elderly woman at the premier of Black Mass in Brookline, MA went viral. All around her, people took pictures and Snapchat videos of the movie stars that were present. She remains with her eyes locked on the celebrities – not a screen – and is seen with a wide grin on her face.

Though society becomes increasingly dependent on technology, there is hope for reconnecting with those around us – strangers or not. And it starts with finding time each day to unplug and appreciate your surroundings. Make eye contact with those whose paths you cross. Smile. Greet one another. Remind the rest of the word that humans do in fact need human interaction.

It’s time to live in the moment. Will you?


4 Comments Add yours

  1. This article is so recent – and so in tune with what I’ve been feeling, particularly in the past 2 days. I searched ‘headphones in public space’ in an effort to find others contemplating the same issue, so glad I came across your text!
    I find the term ‘oasis’ to be misleading – it is more of a bubble, and cage. I mean, I of course SEE the pleasure and comfort of separating oneself from the outside world, but as you say, the habit of putting in earphones as soon as one leaves the house and then having them on for the entirety of the commute becomes habit/unnoticed routine, and as such is not appreciated as an escape.
    I’ve just started uni classes back, so I commute a lot – and I adore people watching and sociology, I’ve noticed people in public transport (and public space) are completely shut off – don’t notice others, don’t smile, cannot fall in love at first sight (unless it’s the sight of their playlist) or greet an old friend. We miss each other.
    I had all these thoughts and then realised, about 15 minutes ago, in a public bus: I have my headphones on. I am with people, but I am in a bubble.
    No earphones for me. Music is fine, a fine pleasure, for home or work. Let’s see how much more human I become,
    Lovely article, thank you.

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    1. Ryann says:


      Thank you for reading! Glad you found the article. I completely agree, the term “oasis” can be misleading. For some who truly want to isolate themselves, I can see how it can be an escape. But it’s become so part of the norm to distance ourselves that we may not be considering the consequences.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us and just remember, your observations don’t stand alone. Keep on working on you, lead by example. Here’s to hoping we set an example for others in inviting them to engage with one another – and not just behind a screen!

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  2. Natalie Sweet says:


    I have been signed up for updates on your blog for several months now – I first came across it in doing research for an art exhibition, Mindful: Exploring Mental Health through Art.

    I have enjoyed receiving your updates and wanted to get in touch to share with you some information about the exhibition, which is now on view at the Society for Contemporary Craft, located in Pittsburgh’s historic Strip District.

    Please visit our exhibition website at to learn more about the show and related programming. For more information about our organization, you can visit us at

    I am also attaching a press release to help give you a wider understanding of the Mindful program.

    We would love to have you come visit the exhibition if time allows – it runs through March 12, 2016.

    I look forward to hearing from you and answering any additional questions you might have about the exhibition.

    Best Wishes, -Natalie

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    1. Ryann says:

      Hi Natalie,

      So great to hear from you and thanks for reaching out. I’ve actually met with Rachel and Yu-San around this time last year when I was interviewing them about the space at the Society for Contemporary Craft. They told me about the (at the time) upcoming exhibit. The website for the exhibit looks great!

      Unfortunately, I’m no longer based in the Southwestern PA area. However, I’d be happy to help promote the exhibit through my networks.

      I’ll contact you via email to get a copy of the press release.


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